“The home is a temple where each member of the family is a moving temple and is nurtured and nourished. The mother is the high priestess of the House of God. Humility is the incense with which the house is filled. Reverence is the lamp that is lit with love as Oil and Faith as wick”. – SaiBaba
Home is heaven when there is Love and understanding. The home and the family is the basic social institution everywhere in the world. When the home improves, the whole world will be better. If the home is filled with clean fragrance of contentment and peace, all its occupants will be happy and healthy. The elders have, therefore, a great responsibility towards the generations that is coming up.
That home, where the husband and wife are bound together by holy love, where every day both are engaged in the reading of books that feed the soul where the name of the Lord is sung and His glory is remembered, that home is really the Home of the Lord.
The food that the child eats must be wholesome and pure. Between the ages of two and five, the child’s mind is profoundly affected by the behaviour of those nearest to him, so the parents must take care to set a good example.
The family is essential for the blossoming of human personality; how can a helpless baby grow and learn, talk and move forwards without a home? Home is the dwelling place of Right Conduct. A home is a home if the woman is honoured and respected within it. Such a home is the heaven of prosperity and peace.
Parents are Role Models
It is said, “God could not be everywhere and hence created Mothers”.
First and foremost, you should show gratitude to your parents. You do not receive gifts directly from God. It is only the parents whom you can see directly and experience their love. So first and foremost, consider your parents as God. Parents should practice what they preach. ‘Be, Do and Tell’ is the norm to be followed by every responsible parent.
Mother, father and then the preceptor
It is the mother who teaches the child the sacred principles like love, compassion, forbearance, tolerance and sacrifice. Mother shows the father, father takes the child to the preceptor and preceptor directs him to God. That is why among mother, father, preceptor and God, Mother comes first. The earlier years of life are the most crucial, and so mother and father have to share the responsibility of proper upbringing. The parents must lay the foundation strong and straight. The child must grow with the mother for the first five years of life. When a boy is five years old, the father has to take up the task of bringing him up. The father must encourage the son by example more than precept.
Parents and teachers work hand in hand
The father and mother must supplement at home the training given by the teacher at school. They must acquaint themselves with the lesson the child receives at school and see that their conduct and advice do not conflict with what the child learns from the teacher whom he adores. Children must be led into good ways of living, into simplicity, humility and discipline.
Teachers should not be satisfied with just teaching the different subjects to children. They should contact the parents and ascertain how they are behaving at home. Knowledge can be given by the teacher; however, the discipline, the rigorous control of the senses and behaviour must be administered by parents. Then the children become sacred souls, holy, sanctified individuals.
Some golden rules
- Children are pure and sacred at birth – Moulding them as ideal children is the duty of the parents
- Children are gifts of God – Parents should rear them as representatives Of God
- Parents are sculptors who chisel their children beautiful – Upbringing children starts from the womb. What the mother sees, eats or hears affects the baby.
- Mother is the first teacher, the child learns every act from the mother
- First five years the child learns action from the parents
- Environment is the first place for the child to learn social behaviour – The world would be more beautiful if the environment is good
- Child’s body, health, mind depends on parents’ life style
- Parents relation with child should be natural, simple, friendly and loving. Parents must spend more time with the child
- Blossoming of child’s mind depends on the atmosphere at home. Home filled with Diligence, Devotion, and Faith becomes a sacred place a Temple, a Mosque or a Church
- The Valuable gift parents can give the child is training in Human Values – Sathya , Dharma, Shanthi, Prema, Ahimsa viz. Turth, Righteousness, Peace, Love and Non-violence.
- Not only building a House but parents should also be ideal householders
- Mould the children to have good thoughts and good practices to make “The Home A Sweet home”
15 wise quotes on Parenting by the great Tamil saint-poet Thiruvalluvar
http://fertilebrains.com/wise-quotes-ancient-indian-saint-poet-thiruvalluvar-on-parenting/
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